It’s not always Now.

People who use time well don’t take it for granted. They struggle too. I learned something new about time last year, walking the neighborhood with my non-ADHD spouse. “People who are not time-blind must feel disoriented if they lose track of time.” I was feeling the cost of time-management struggles at home and work. “Not…

The One Thing ADHDers Can’t Do

Quick: Name a critical thing ADHDers cannot do that other people can. ADHDers cannot count to Three. Draw the Owl We can start something, get to One, sure. And we can get to about halfway done, where Two lives. Absolutely. But taking anything to the point where it’s really complete, needs nothing else - that’s…

Newly Diagnosed? Welcome to the 3-Step!

Diagnosis and treatment are the two steps that must be in place if you want to actually have a chance at recovering from the effects of this neuro-developmental disorder. Third step: Recovery. This is where you come in. You do not have to do this without help, but you do have to be the driver.…

Water Torture, Context, and Productive Solitude

Spring is here. And that can only mean one thing: Water Torture! It’s time to frog-march a story about water torture into a metaphor about context, freedome, and productive solitude, don’t you think? I’ve been mildly fascinated by this topic for years. By mildly, I mean I think and perhaps talk about it once in…

Coyotes, Anorexics, Biting the Hand

There goes one now! My wife has a knack for spotting wildlife when we’re hiking, an admirable skill which shines in both our teenaged children as well. I’ve benefitted from this point-and-call sequence numerous times, getting glimpses of coyotes, deer, owls, eagles, and mountain goets I never would have seen on my own, in places…

Spectacles Versus Eye Patch

This post starts out discussing compensations, how to balance between strength training versus accommodation when trying to improve on a skill or problem area, and finally talks about self-advocacy. I think glasses make me look smart. But an eyepatch - that would probably make me look tougher. Sometimes I have trouble processing all the information…

The Soldier and the Rock

Untreated ADHD symptoms can put you in a stress position when you are trying to function as a teacher, student, leader, follower, or a partner in any relationship, be it parent, child, friend, sibling, spouse, co-worker... Imagine you're a soldier in the Roman army, standing in formation, looking straight ahead while the commander paces among…

The Unguidable Mind and Credibility

I once dabbled in conspiracy theories. Right around 9/11, finding myself in a new town with no friends or family in the same time zone, the shock of witnessing that spectacle of terror set my mind racing to piece together some kind of understanding. The Internet provided a panoply of explanations, and I was free…