Three Questions

Psychologist Sheldon Solomon: 'Death Anxiety Makes Us Hate People Who Are Different' Two antidotes: Humility and gratitude. Every morning I write for an hour, expressing gratitude and cultivating curiosity. About twice a week, I clean out the toilet in our tiny house. That helps with the humility. This year, for lockdown, I began writing every…

Shut up: I’m Digging!

What is Trenchmind? A soul-infection chartacterized by gradual loss of joy and fluidity, especially in activities associated with growth, creativity, and fun. Signs: 1. Shut up, I'm digging. Trenchmind is easier for others to notice. When they do, it makes you bitchy. 2. This used to be fun. Exercising because it feels so good when…

How to Find an Illustrator for Your Book

I think my book Bull in a Candy Store is going to need illustrations. I know a few writers who’ve worked with graphic artists, but I have no idea how to find one. As a fan of James Altucher, I made a list of ways I could learn about this. Somewhere down the list was…

Penmanshit: Feed Your Brain Sips of Inspiration

“Daddy, say the thing.” My daughter had just turned 14. I was charmed that she remembered our birthday ritual. I turned to her and said “Part of you will always be 13.” BTW: I know this topic is all over the place, but I like this version. I will try it again sometime soon. Every ADHDer…

My first diagnosis

What it was like, What happened, then what it was like for a while What it was like In 1994, I was in the best physical condition of my life. Lean, aerobically fit, and reasonably limber. I had 5 years of sobriety and a solid recovery network of people I helped, and people who helped…

Anyone Missing From Your Kurzweil Panel?

Ray Kurzweil, who inspired the creation of the bots that will incorrectly flag this story as an AI article, uses a powerful thought exercise to improve his writing. I heard about this exercise from Tom, my emotional-support Canadian. Ok, he’s my ADHD Coach. I asked him for advice on how to ensure that my book…

ACE Score: an Oven Mitt for Childhood Trauma

A friend of mine asked about the term “High Ace Score” in my profile. ACE measures adverse childhood experiences (violence, abuse, neglect), which correlate numerically and unsurprisingly to a host of poor outcomes in adulthood - divorce, incarceration, COPD. Your ACE score can be a great tool. I think of it like an oven mitt…

It’s not always Now.

People who use time well don’t take it for granted. They struggle too. I learned something new about time last year, walking the neighborhood with my non-ADHD spouse. “People who are not time-blind must feel disoriented if they lose track of time.” I was feeling the cost of time-management struggles at home and work. “Not…

The One Thing ADHDers Can’t Do

Quick: Name a critical thing ADHDers cannot do that other people can. ADHDers cannot count to Three. Draw the Owl We can start something, get to One, sure. And we can get to about halfway done, where Two lives. Absolutely. But taking anything to the point where it’s really complete, needs nothing else - that’s…

Newly Diagnosed? Welcome to the 3-Step!

Diagnosis and treatment are the two steps that must be in place if you want to actually have a chance at recovering from the effects of this neuro-developmental disorder. Third step: Recovery. This is where you come in. You do not have to do this without help, but you do have to be the driver.…