Part 1: How Time Blindness Effects Relationships In my relationship history, there have been times - ok a lot of times - when I functioned at a primal level, manifesting chaos and uproar in the lives of others. I heard an old recovering drunk describe the way he drove down a street in a blackout,…
The Soldier and the Rock
Untreated ADHD symptoms can put you in a stress position when you are trying to function as a teacher, student, leader, follower, or a partner in any relationship, be it parent, child, friend, sibling, spouse, co-worker... Imagine you're a soldier in the Roman army, standing in formation, looking straight ahead while the commander paces among…
The Unguidable Mind and Credibility
I once dabbled in conspiracy theories. Right around 9/11, finding myself in a new town with no friends or family in the same time zone, the shock of witnessing that spectacle of terror set my mind racing to piece together some kind of understanding. The Internet provided a panoply of explanations, and I was free…
ADHDers: Just Like Everyone Else, Only More So
I like to think about how one of the best podcasters in the world went to CU Boulder several years before I got there to do my MA in writing. In his Supernova in the East show, Dan Carlin uses the phrase "just like everyone else, only more so" to explain how trends in Japanese…
Superman, You Are Such an Asshole
On the top floor deck of a sky scraper, a man leans over to the guy next to him at the bar. "What do I do? I'm a flight instructor. In fact, most people don't know it, but there's a current of air rushing up from the 10th floor outside this building, and it's so…
Who’s Dealing with Your ADHD Symptoms?
Think ADHD is just a personality trait? Here are some questions you can ask yourself if you have a nagging feeling that you just can't seem to get motivated to take an active role treating your ADHD. TL/DR: If you've got ADHD and you're not owning your treatment (coasting on meds and not doing anything…
Why are you like this?, continued…
Continued from Why are you like this? We watched Gladiator last night. Re-watching this story of a decorated general who ends up fighting for his survival in meaningless staged conflicts reminded me of my own early sobriety. I could relate - not to the skill and heroism, but the meaninglessness of the suffering. Through the…
Why are you like this?
Why Are You Like This? Even though I get asked this question pretty often, it never comes in a form I can understand. I guess most people over the age of like 6 would not phrase it this way. I have been trying to find a workable answer to this one for a long time,…
Picking out cereal…
While yacked out on stress-withdrawal Adjusting to Normal Life with a High ACE Number I watched Hurt Locker with my family a few weeks ago, and it reminded me of what it's like to live with a high ACE score. Jeremy Renner's character is an expert in bomb disposal. (He also happens to be named…
Getting in your own way…
A lot. If you’ve started to treat your ADHD symptoms, you may have started to feel encouraged by improved daily results, better ability to focus, remember, and finish things. But sometimes it gets worse before it gets better. Maybe after a little while you see yourself making some of the same mistakes with people that…